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How To Stop Liking Your Crush


I got an email from a friend this morning, she said "I must stop crushing on this man", She and I have a crush on sexy actor Ciaran Hinds so naturally I could relate. She explained how she's obsessing too much on him, constantly checking all his websites, watching films, staring at his photos, etc...so as any good friend would do, I laughed at her. After that, I tried to advise her on ideas how to shake a crush. It got me wondering, is there a way to stop liking your crush? When it comes to matters of the heart, it's not an emotion you can just switch off.

So I went on a google hunt to see what the folks at WikiHow suggest. They actually list 10 ways:

  1. Whenever you start thinking about your crush's really cute body part (e.g eyes, hair, smile...) imagine that it turns ugly.
  2. Whenever you start remembering a good time you had with him/her, force yourself to think about some good time you had with someone else, or think about a fight you two had.
  3. Cross out or erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it then drawn hearts around it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, your bedroom wall...)
  4. The more you come in contact with him/her, the harder it is to stop your feelings. So at least in the short term, avoid seeing the person often.
  5. If you were once dating, or you know that he/she also had a crush on you, you should write the person a letter to get your feelings out and to (softly) explain why you think you should avoid each other and need space.
  6. If your crush is really an obsession but he/she doesn't know that you exist, so much the better. You can just avoid him/her without any formality.
  7. Focus on your other interests. The more you're thinking about something (or someone) else, the less you'll think about your crush.
  8. If you want to develop a crush on another guy/girl as a coping strategy, just do the opposite of the first seven steps.
  9. Stop looking at his myspace page every five minutes. If it's a done deal and you're never getting back together with them again, consider deleting his/her off your friends list. You might need to explain to him/her why you are doing this.
  10. Another thing that is helpful is just think of all the flaws of your crush

Of the 10 steps, there's only one that might help, step #7 "Focus on your other interests".  Nothing relating to the heart (or hormones) disappears overnight. In time my friend's crush will slowly grow sullen and stale and she'll look back and think herself a silly girl for how she felt. For now, I'll keep the news that I met Ciaran Hinds to myself and not tell her until she's doing a lot better. 

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(Anonymous)
Dec. 5th, 2007 09:00 pm (UTC)
You MET Ciaran?
oh my god. was he cool? where was this? how'd he look in person? i thought i was the only person under 60 who was in love with him!
bella_nutella
Dec. 5th, 2007 10:17 pm (UTC)
Re: You MET Ciaran?
Yes a few times. Who's this?
bella_nutella
Dec. 5th, 2007 10:19 pm (UTC)
Re: You MET Ciaran?
Oh there's a whole group of women under 60 in love with this man. We are all bees to his honey! LOL
(Anonymous)
Jul. 28th, 2008 06:54 am (UTC)
Ciaranitis is an incurable disease
I tried all these steps to get rid of my big crush and of course, I failed. I even crossed the Atlantic to meet him in the hope I would be disappointed. But he is charming, very kind and patient and funny and... Not a celebrity but a real man I'd have liked to count among my friends.

So I gave up hope and dedicated a web site to this very interesting person: www.ciaranhinds.eu

Greetings

SG

(Anonymous)
Jul. 28th, 2008 02:28 pm (UTC)
Re: Ciaranitis is an incurable disease
JESUS do you really use Ciaranitis to describe the fan club? thats awful, sounds like rectal disease. :(

Such an uggly word for a sweet man..thats too bad.
(Anonymous)
Jul. 29th, 2008 12:01 pm (UTC)
Re: Ciaranitis is an incurable disease
We don't. Other fan did, years ago. Sometimes, we use it as a joke, but we have many other sweet things in our site. And some of us who have met the man really like him.
bella_nutella
Jul. 29th, 2008 02:14 pm (UTC)
Re: Ciaranitis is an incurable disease
Hello to both Annonymous posters. The first Annonymos person is correct, the Ciaranitis term was coined a whle back, I never liked it either and never used it, but there it is. LOL

I met Ciaran on several occasions and hung out at different locales, whenever we hit a pub or an eatery I noticed his flirtyness came natural whenever the waitresses took our orders. LOL! He knows the hold he has over many women that swoon over him, he just likes to pretend he's clueless which makes it all more adorable.

You are right he is a very charming man, and i'm happy to say that I've gone from fan to friend with him. He's also a family man, although the family stays together by flying back and forth to be together, they are very much a tight knit clan. He's a dedicated father and "husband".

Thanks for posting!
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